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Top Ten Ways to Live After Death
from Chas Ridley,
author of Black Hole: Unexpected Tool for Joyous Living
1. After the death of a child, ask friends and family to write their memories of the child for you to read and cherish when you’re ready, and remember that many people will need your express permission before they feel free to talk with you about that child.
2. After the death of a dream, talk with other people about their dreams while you build your own next dream.
3. After the death of a friend, visit with the family and share your favorite memories of the friend – especially memories from times when the family wasn’t present.
4. After the death of a friend’s family member, encourage your friend to share memories of that person with you.
5. After the death of a house by fire, weather or even a move, along with gratitude that you are still alive, ask friends and families for copies of any photographs they may have of your former house for your scrapbook.
6. After the death of a job, whether voluntary or involuntary, remember what made it a good job for you and look for ways to do those same things as a volunteer or in a new position.
7. After the death of a marriage, give yourself time to mourn the loss of the dream that was part of the marriage and to build a new dream for your personal life.
8. After the death of a parent, take the time to gather stories about that parent from older friends and family so your memories can expand.
9. After the death of a pet, think about volunteering in an animal shelter to be around animals with whom you need not have a direct connection, and forgive those who don’t feel you have a right to mourn ‘just an animal.’
10. After the death of a spouse, in addition to gathering memories from friends and family, give yourself time to write down and think about the necessary changes in your daily routines, some of which will surprise you.
Copyright 2005, Chas Ridley
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Chas Ridley is an unintentional expert on living beyond grief and an intentional expert on enjoying life. She helps audiences and readers acknowledge and move past the traditional forms of grieving into a life that honors what is no longer while building what remains into a life of joy.
Black Hole: Unexpected Tool for Joyous Living
ISBN 1-890894-29-X (print, $14.99)
ISBN 1-890894-27-3 (e-book, $9.99)available from
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